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Apr 17, 2022Liked by Sebastian Stockman

Oh, Sebastian, I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this lovely tribute with us. I hope writing and delivering it was of some comfort, and that you're able to keep reaching out. Grief can be a lonely thing, but it doesn't have to be.

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Thank you, Jenifer. There was comfort in writing and giving this, for sure. It made me feel like I was actually doing something (illusory as that may have been). It’s one of the reasons I wanted to share it again here.

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Apr 19, 2022Liked by Sebastian Stockman

Our dear Larry…I can see him in your writing. What a beautiful piece. May he Rest In Peace. Our condolences to you and Jonny.

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Hellen, thank you so much for reading, and for this nice comment.

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Apr 17, 2022Liked by Sebastian Stockman

Beautiful Father-Son story. Tender and funny. I was endeared to your discovering he aspired to become a writer, a dream you achieved for yourself.

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Thank you, Rip.

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Apr 17, 2022Liked by Sebastian Stockman

Thank you for sharing this, Sebastian. I read it imagining your delivery, and thinking about the challenge of conveying your father's years and character and ways of being and fathering. You should indeed feel proud.

And as the son of a Larry (not from Missouri but Kansas!) who is now in decline, I know that I'll be returning to your stories and reflections here. I'm grateful.

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Thank you, Allan. I think I had known — but forgotten — you are also the son of a Larry.

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Apr 17, 2022Liked by Sebastian Stockman

This is so moving, Sebastian. Thanks for doing this!

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Thank you, Rachel! And thanks for reading!

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Apr 17, 2022Liked by Sebastian Stockman

Thanks for sharing, Seb. It’s perfect.

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Thank, you, Kat.

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A beautiful tribute.

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I'm so so sorry for your loss 💙

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Apr 17, 2022Liked by Sebastian Stockman

Over the years, your stories made me feel like I knew your dad. Always funny and sarcastic, but loving too.

You wrote something really authentic and beautiful here. It was kind of you to share this with us, thank you.

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Thank you so much, Kim.

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Apr 17, 2022·edited Apr 17, 2022Liked by Sebastian Stockman

A moving tribute, Sub. I’ve been thinking about you and your family. Enjoy the memories.

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Thanks, Erica.

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Apr 17, 2022Liked by Sebastian Stockman

I am so sorry for your loss.

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Thank you so much.

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Thank you for sharing this. My dad died in 2010, 3 yrs after a cancer diagnosis (during which he hiked as avidly as always, traveled to NZ to hike for a few weeks, and spent time with friends and family), and things still come up all the time that I wish I'd asked him about or that I'm sorry we didn't talk about more. There's never enough time when you love someone. May your memories comfort you as you grieve this loss.

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I’m sure the part about never having quite enough time is true. And the hospice nurse encouraged us to see the speed as it’s own kind of blessing, given what she’s seen from other patients with pancreatic cancer. Someday we might, but I think we’re still mostly stunned.

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Thanks for your thoughts, I guess.

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Apr 17, 2022·edited Apr 17, 2022Liked by Sebastian Stockman

Taken like the champ I can only infer your dad raised you to be.

ANYWAY 🙄, this was a beautiful tribute, Sebastian. I can't believe that in the shock of losing him so quickly you are able to turn this around and share it with the world. Sounds like Larry was a great dad and a colorful character. Thanks for sharing some of that color. Wishing you and your family comfort in each other and his memory in this trying time.

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Thank you very much. Cristina.

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